For Deeper Connection, Try the 30/70 Rule
What is Attunement? In my line of work, I see lots of couples that want a deeper connection. They long to be seen, heard, and understood...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Aug 23, 20232 min read
3 Common Questions I Get Asked About Relationships
1. Can our relationship be saved? The short answer is yes, but let’s unpack this question a little more. Part of what I think is being...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Jul 5, 20233 min read
Stop Trying To Manage Your Anger
In my many years as a couples therapist, I have been contacted by individuals (mostly men) who say they want anger management classes....
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Jun 15, 20233 min read
Everyday Psychobabble - What Does It All Mean??
Psychology, like any field of study, has created a unique language to describe its findings. Sometimes the language we use in psychology...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
May 2, 20233 min read
How Are Relationships Like Traffic Lights?
Maybe you’re like me and recognize that there are times when you and your partner get caught in conflict. And maybe like me, you wonder...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Apr 13, 20239 min read
Empathy Heals
In my many years as a therapist, I have noted that one of the defining factors that causes distress within couples is the lack of...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Mar 23, 20236 min read
How Trauma Impacts Your Relationship
Among the difficulties of making a relationship work, is the ability for partners to repair the ruptures that disconnect them, regulate...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Feb 16, 20233 min read
The Imaginary Fight: Distance in Couple Arguments
Breaking patterns is not easy, especially ones that are not always recognizable to the couple. Many couples feel as if they get locked...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Feb 9, 20233 min read
The 4 Most Important Things I’ve Learned About Relationships (As A Couples Therapist)
As a couples therapist, I feel like I have seen it all. I’ve had the privilege of sitting with couples during the most joyous times of...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Jan 25, 20234 min read
Deepening the Attachment Ties in Couples
When counseling couples I often hear, “I love her, but…” or “He’s a good man, but….” Usually the “but” is my first clue that there may be...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Jan 12, 20234 min read
12 Tips for Managing Loneliness
What Is Loneliness? We are by nature social creatures, seeking out relationships with others and a sense of belonging in the world. When...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Dec 15, 20223 min read
"It’s Not About That" — What Really Drives Couple Conflict
“Let’s see if we can get to the root of the problem of what is really going on here,” is something I say frequently to the couples I...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Dec 1, 20227 min read
Trauma in Relationships
"All You Need is Love" From the moment we are born, we all share a need for love and connection. We begin to learn about trust and safety...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Nov 17, 20223 min read
Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship? Here’s Why.
Does it feel like you struggle to be emotionally secure in your relationship? Are there times when anxiety grips you and you are overcome...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Nov 3, 20226 min read
Healing Past Hurts (to Create Deeper Connection)
Relationships have a tremendous capacity to heal. They also have a tremendous capacity to hurt. The old adage, “Hurt people hurt people,”...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Oct 13, 20222 min read
Why Can't I Control My Feelings?
Emotion is one of the least understood, and most complex of the human systems. It wasn’t until the 1990's that technology allowed us to...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Sep 22, 20227 min read
Pushing Buttons and Flipping Triggers:
Why Am I Emotionally Reactive to my Partner? When a couple gets caught in a negative cycle of interaction, several things can happen....
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Sep 12, 20222 min read
Is This a Good Reason for Couples Therapy?
Couples counseling is hard work. Maybe that is why less than 5% of divorcing couples come to therapy for help. What most don’t realize is...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Sep 8, 20223 min read
If You Could (Only) See the Real Me: Validation in Couple Relationships
Without validation, communication breaks down and leads to power struggles about whose version of reality will win out. Marie sat with...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
Aug 24, 20222 min read
How to Communicate When You See Things Differently
The number one reason couples come to therapy is because of “communication issues.” Why do I put this in quotes? Because when couples...
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